Whether you’re a working mom or a Stay-at-home-mom (SAHM) the reality remains, trying to get out of the house on time, with children is rarely an easy task. And depending on your morning, it could lead to a serious meltdown for all parties involved. So after dealing with a few manic MoMents, myself included, I’ve come up with some tips to help make your mass exodus out of the house a bit smoother.
Whether its for work, an appointment or simply a playdate these tips will help alleviate the stress that comes along with getting anywhere on time.
1. The most important trick to getting anywhere on time with kids is planning! For me this word is a sore spot, I must admit, the act of planning is not my strong-suit, but I am definitely working on it and can sorely admit it’s a necessity in getting out the house without losing it. For me planning starts the night before. That means I pack snacks/lunches and have every item in the bag and in the fridge. If you’re packing for a baby, you’ll need to make sure your diaper bag is filled with everything you need for the next day. Make it easy on yourself, once your bag is packed, put it in the car or by the door (if you use mass transportation) so that you don’t have to worry about having octopus legs on the way out. Fill bottles and put them in a plastic bag in the fridge so that you can easily grab the bag and go. Helpful hint: Set a reminder on your phone close to the time you plan to leave, it will remind you to grab the bottles or any items that couldn’t be set out. I know… so simple!
2. Get yourself ready first. I’ve learned that getting up just a little bit earlier so that I can get dressed in peace makes life a lot easier. I follow the same steps of laying out my clothes the night before down to socks, shoes and makeup (which is usually an added bonus) as well as putting my work bag or needed items in the car the night before. Once I’m completely dressed I get everyone else up. That way I’m not trying to get ready and play referee or keep kids busy while I’m trying to focus on me. Oh, and it helps that I set my clock a few minutes fast, which gives me a few minutes to play with.
3. Include your kids in the process. Now that my kids are older and have an opinion about EVERYTHING, I find that my life is a little less complicated if I involve them in the process. This may sound like it will end up being a cluster but as parents its all about being strategic. My 4 year old now loves to pick out clothes himself, which is awesome, but can end in a train wreck. So to avoid an early morning meltdown, I give him choices; two options and he picks one. It makes him feel involved and I avoid fighting with him about what is too small, inappropriate for the weather that day or more importantly keep him for looking like he’s auditioning for clown school. For me that’s a big WIN!!
4. Give them the talk. (This works with younger kids too) The night before I explain the game plan. We discuss what our morning will look like and review the steps. I remind them of their choices for clothes and explain to them that I need their help in making this plan work. You’d be surprised how eager kids are to do what’s needed when they feel like they are part of the plan. I’ve been doing this with my youngest since he was about two years old and more often than not it goes without a hitch.
5. Establish a reward system. Most kids love to be rewarded. So during your “talk” let them know that if the plan runs smoothly, tomorrow and every day thereafter they can earn something they love to do on the weekend. If your kids are younger, it will need to be something they can do or that they can have at the end of the process; or at least by the end of the day. Their little brains don’t really understand the weekend concept just yet. Remember this reward is not anything costly or extravagant. It can be an extra book at bedtime; a few extra minutes added to their electronics time or more one-on-one time with you. Get creative.
6. Build extra time into your escape plan. With anything, there is no fail-proof plan, which means there is always room for something to go wrong. So, while all these tips can help make life on the move a little easier, there are times when you just can’t avoid Murphy’s Law. For those instances, you need to make sure you buffer your time with a few extra minutes in case something goes awry. For me, I typically pad an extra 20 – 30 minutes for the “what ifs”. This way all my planning isn’t in vain. And if nothing goes wrong, I have an extra few minutes to check my favorite blogs or social sites with time to spare. And who doesn’t love time to spare?!
Remember: All of these tips take time to refine so don’t be so hard on yourself or your kids if they don’t go as planned the first few times. This, like everything that involves children is a process. Once this becomes a routine it will run smoother. And remember there’s no manual for mother hood so sometimes you just have to wing it.
Got tips on how to get out the house on time with kids? Please share in the comments below, we need all the help we can get.
bahahah love the part about time to spare. That NEVER happens for me 🙂 and I’m octopus legs everyday! hahahaha #workinprogress
Don’t be too hard on yourself. This take a lot of planning, as I mentioned, its a struggle for me. But once everyone gets in the swing of things, its a well oiled machine. We are all trying to figure out the perfect mix. WE are all in this together.
Wow these are great tips! I’m so hit or miss with leaving on time. Sometimes I do great, other times I’m super late…
I love the idea of including them in the process.
Nothing is ever fail proof, but this works MOST of the time. My kids are competitive and love to feel like they are in charge. Including them in the process just hits all the right buttons.
Great tips! I love to do the #2 and #4 🙂
Two and four are sweet spots for me. Being able to get dressed in peace makes a world of difference…at least for my sanity. And 4 well, let’s just say it depends on the day, but works more often than not.
Yes!!! I love these tips! Yes, definitely having a game plan is essential! I have a 8,9, and a newborn so now I’m trying to reestablish our routine. I love your tips…I think my favorite is getting yourself completely ready first!
Whoa, you’ve got an interesting spread like me. Routine, as much as I hate to say it, is key. Managing three kids is no joke ease into it. And yes, getting dressed first seems to be the number one favorite.
Awesome tips, Mom! Sometimes we are so wanting things to go our way, we forget to incorporate our children in the planning process. Telling them a game plan the night before was our favorite tip – let’s face it, kids get anxious too…sometimes they don’t act right that day because they didn’t feel a part of the process beforehand. Keep up the great work!
Yes, often times its the simple things…and trial and error. Thanks for the encouragement!
I post things on the back of the door to remind me not to forget certain things like “don’t forget lunch and snacks!!” I always made them the night before but forgot to pack them in their back packs. Lol!!!
Also do as much as u can the night before. I have three kids 10, 5 and 9months. This is so helpful!!
Aaaaah I love the sticky idea. I’ll have to try that one. I’m so forgetful. Awesome tip, thanks!
These are really great tips. I have to totally agree on getting dressed first!
Getting ready first is one of my favs, saves me from walking out the house looking absolutely CRAZY!!!!
These 6 tips are gold. I can’t tell you how, as mom, I marvel at leaving the house and its similarity to moving (at least it feels like it!)>. My face of these is to build in A LOT of extra time to buffer leaving. It always seems someone needs to go tot he bathroom right before I shut the front door LOL…all part of the fun!
OMG you are right. I make everyone go to the bathroom right before we walk out the door. I don’t care if they say they don’t have to. That is one thing that drives me absolutely batty. Never a dull moment!
This is great info! A must share!!
Glad you enjoyed. Thanks!
Awesome tips. (And my daughter totally has that wonder woman backpack too)
Thanks! Your daughter and Wonder Woman – ROCKS!!
I’m definitely writing these down!! I have a 4 and 2 year old and they like to Lolly gag when I’m trying to get them out the door!!
I think they all do it on purpose when they know you have somewhere to go. SMH
These Tips are Great…Not only with younger kids but older as well, Preperation at night works great for myself and 2girls. As the kids get older the process gets smoother…..Thank God!
Yes, It’s all about consistency. And who doesn’t love a well-oiled machine. So glad to know it gets easier. Thanks!
Awesome tips from an awesome mom! I know mothers everywhere will be using these for years to come!
Thank you!
Ha! I laughed way too hard @ octopus legs! Great comparison
So Glad you enjoyed it. Thanks!